Faith · Hair · Becoming
Reaching the
Lost
Every conversation is an open door. We don't reach people through perfection — we reach them through the Christ-transformed honesty of a woman who's been there.
We Were the Lost Ones
Here's what makes this pillar personal for us: we weren't raised in church. We didn't grow up memorizing Bible verses or singing in the choir. Sabrina and Chanelle both came to Jesus as adults — after years of figuring life out on their own terms, after hitting walls that self-help books couldn't fix, after realizing that the emptiness they kept trying to fill with relationships, success, and approval had a shape that only God could match.
So when we talk about reaching the lost, we're not talking about “those people out there.” We're talking about who we were. We know what it feels like to roll your eyes at someone quoting Scripture at you. We know the defensiveness that kicks in when someone says “I'll pray for you” and it feels condescending instead of caring. We know what it's like to be skeptical of God, hurt by religion, and not sure if any of it is even real.
And that's exactly why God chose us for this. Because we don't approach the lost with judgment — we approach them with the empathy of someone who sat in that exact same seat. We reach because we were reached. We love because someone loved us first when we didn't deserve it and definitely didn't ask for it.
“God wants to heal us to such a degree that multitudes are won.”
How to Share Your Faith
Without being weird about it. Six principles for sharing Jesus the way you'd share a restaurant that changed your life — because it genuinely did, not because you're obligated.
Live It Before You Say It
People watch before they listen. Your coworker notices when you stay calm during chaos. Your neighbor sees how you treat your kids at the park. Your friend clocks the way you handle a breakup with grace instead of bitterness. Before you ever open your mouth about Jesus, your life is already preaching a sermon. The most powerful evangelism is a changed life that makes people curious enough to ask why.
“Let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven.”
— Matthew 5:16
Ask Questions, Don’t Lecture
Nobody has ever been argued into the Kingdom. But a good question? That opens a door that preaching can’t. When your friend is hurting, try “What do you think would bring you peace right now?” instead of “You just need to pray about it.” When someone is questioning everything, ask “What would it look like if there was a God who actually cared about the details of your life?” Curiosity is an invitation. Lectures are a wall.
“The purposes of a person’s heart are deep waters, but one who has insight draws them out.”
— Proverbs 20:5
Share Your Mess, Not Just Your Message
Nobody connects with perfection. They connect with “I’ve been there too.” When you share that you struggled with anxiety before finding peace in prayer, or that your marriage almost fell apart before you surrendered it to God — that’s what resonates. Vulnerability is magnetic because it tells people the truth: you don’t have to be fixed before you come to Jesus. You come to Jesus to get fixed.
“But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.””
— 2 Corinthians 12:9
Meet People Where They Are
Jesus didn’t wait for people to come to the synagogue. He went to the well, the marketplace, the dinner table. Your mission field isn’t just Sunday morning — it’s the salon chair where you sit for three hours, the group chat that goes deep at midnight, the coffee shop where your coworker finally opens up about her divorce. Ministry happens in the margins of everyday life, in the places where people feel safe enough to be real.
“I have become all things to all people so that by all possible means I might save some.”
— 1 Corinthians 9:22
Plant Seeds, Don’t Force Harvests
You are not responsible for someone’s salvation. That’s the Holy Spirit’s job. You’re responsible for being faithful with the moment in front of you. Sometimes that means sharing your testimony. Sometimes it means just being kind when the world says to be petty. Sometimes it means praying silently for someone who has no idea you’re doing it. Plant the seed. Water it with love. And trust God with the timeline.
“I planted the seed, Apollos watered it, but God has been making it grow.”
— 1 Corinthians 3:6
Love Without an Agenda
People can smell inauthenticity from a mile away. If you’re only being nice because you want to convert someone, they’ll feel it — and they’ll run. But when you genuinely love people with no strings attached, when you show up for them whether or not they ever step foot in a church, that’s the kind of love that wrecks walls. That’s the kind of love that made Jesus irresistible to the people religion had rejected.
“We love because he first loved us.”
— 1 John 4:19
Everyday Evangelism
Real situations you'll actually face — and how to show up with love instead of a lecture.
When your coworker is going through a breakup
"Well, maybe God is removing him because he wasn't the one. You should pray about it and trust His plan."
"I'm so sorry. That's really painful. I've been through something similar and I know how heavy it feels. Can I take you to lunch this week? I just don't want you to go through this alone."
Why it works: Lead with empathy first. The theology can come later, when she's ready to hear it. Right now she needs to know someone sees her pain.
When your friend asks why you seem different lately
"I've been reading my Bible and going to church! You should come with me this Sunday — it'll change your life."
"Honestly? I've been working through some stuff and I started praying about it. I don't have it all figured out, but something shifted. I feel like I'm actually dealing with things instead of just surviving them. I can tell you more if you're curious."
Why it works: Let her pull the thread. When you leave space for curiosity, she'll ask the follow-up questions that matter most.
When someone on social media is struggling
Commenting "Praying for you! God is in control!" on a post from someone you barely know.
Sending a private DM: "Hey, I saw your post and I just wanted to check on you. No advice, no judgment — I just wanted you to know someone noticed and cares. I'm here if you need to talk."
Why it works: Public spiritual advice often feels performative. A private, genuine message tells someone they're worth your time, not just your comment.
When you're at the salon and the conversation gets deep
Turning a casual conversation about relationships into a full sermon about God's plan for marriage.
Listening fully, then sharing: "Girl, I used to feel that exact same way. Something that really helped me was realizing I was looking for a person to fill a space that only God could fill. It sounds cliché, but it literally changed how I see everything."
Why it works: The salon chair is sacred space. Women let their guard down there. Honor that vulnerability by sharing honestly, not preaching at them.
When your sister is angry at God
"You shouldn't be angry at God. He knows what He's doing. Everything happens for a reason."
"I hear you. And honestly, I think God can handle your anger. David was angry at God all through the Psalms and God still called him a man after His own heart. You don't have to pretend to be okay with Him. Just don't walk away from the conversation."
Why it works: Validating someone's anger at God isn't blasphemy — it's honesty. And honesty is the doorway to healing.
The Ripple Effect
You don't have to reach the whole world. You just have to reach one woman. And watch what God does with that.
One Woman
She hears an episode. Something clicks. For the first time, she considers that maybe God isn't who she thought He was.
Her Inner Circle
She tells her sister, her best friend, her roommate. Not because she's preaching — but because she can't stop talking about what's changing inside her.
Her Community
Her coworkers notice. Her kids notice. The women in her life start asking questions because her peace is louder than their chaos.
A Movement
Each woman she touches reaches her own circle. One conversation multiplies into hundreds. This is how the early church grew — not through programs, but through transformed women who couldn't keep quiet about what God did.
Research consistently shows that women are the primary carriers of faith in families. When a mother comes to Christ, there is a significantly higher probability that her children and household will follow. When a woman's life is transformed, her home is transformed. Her community is transformed.
You are not just reaching one woman. You are reaching generations.
Your Next Step
You don't have to do everything. Just do one thing this week.
Share Your Story
Your testimony is your most powerful tool. Write it, record it, or just tell us in a DM. We'll help you share it with women who need to hear it.
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We have a team of women who pray over every episode, every listener, and every DM we receive. If you want to be part of what God is doing behind the scenes, this is your invitation.
Get ConnectedShe's waiting for someone who looks like you to tell her about a God who loves like Him.
Love is the loudest sermon you'll ever preach. And the woman God has placed in your path is listening — not to your words, but to your life.
“Faith. Hair. Becoming.”